ROSE BRUFORD STUDENT SERVICES
  • Home
  • Accommodation
    • Christopher Court
    • Private Accommodation >
      • Estate Agents
      • Useful Information
  • Money
    • Budgeting and Advice
    • Hardship Fund
    • Grants/Bursaries >
      • Do's and Don't's
    • Local Discounts
    • SFE (Student Loans) >
      • Setting up a consent to share
    • Postgraduate Support
    • SFE Part-Time
  • Disability
    • Disability Support
    • Disabled Students Allowance (DSA)
    • Dyslexia Resources
    • Useful Contacts
  • Health and Wellbeing
    • Mental Wellbeing >
      • Mindfulness
      • Self-Help Resources
    • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
    • Local Health Services >
      • Relationships
      • Sexual Health
    • Useful Contacts
  • International
    • International Students at Rose Bruford >
      • Before you arrive
      • English Language Support
    • American Theatre Arts
    • DMTA
    • Outgoing Erasmus
  • Organisation
  • Study Support
  • IT Equipment Loans
  • Feedback
  • Gallery
  • Contact

Relationships - Domestic Abuse

What is a relationship?
  • A state of being related or connected
  • Association by blood or marriage
  • The mutual dealings, connections or feelings that exist between people

What is domestic abuse?
  • The use or threat of physical, sexual, emotional and other forms of abuse by one person over another with whom they have or have had a close intimate relationship with by using power in order to control that person.

Forms of domestic abuse
  • Physical - Hitting, biting, punching, kicking, burning, using objects, throwing objects, slapping, hair pulling, spitting
  • Sexual - sexual assault, forced sexual activity, rape
  • Verbal - Name calling, constantly putting down, criticism, humiliation, fear of silence, harassment, shouting
  • Emotional - Criticism, humiliation, threats, removal of friendship group, mind games, guilt trip, prevention from visiting friends or family, controlling what clothes you wear, harassment, isolation, constant checking up by phone or text.
  • Financial - Removal of financial independence, prevention of getting a job, no access to joint account

Relationships should be an equal partnership.  If you experience any of the above - you don't have to put up with it!

Why do people stay in an abusive relationship?
  • They want the abuser to stop
  • They have children
  • They do not know what help is available
  • They think it's their fault
  • No confidence to start over
  • Security
  • Scared of being on their own
  • Low self esteem
  • They think their partner will change
  • They have nowhere to go
  • No job/Job
  • Threatened not to leave

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone but that doesn't mean you have to live with it

Healthy Relationships include;
  • Respect - Take responsibility for making sure we respect our partner
  • Effort - everyone needs to make an effort
  • Sharing - sharing caring and listening are so important!
  • Pleasing - Both parties in the relationship matter, not just our own views or choices
  • Equality - Treat each other equally
  • Consent - Just because you are in a relationship does not mean consent, make sure you are both deciding when being intimate
  • Trust  - the foundation of a good relationship


Respect Checklist!
  • Willing to compromise
  • Lets you feel comfortable to be yourself
  • Able to admit being wrong
  • Resolves conflict by talking honestly
  • Enables you to feel safe being with them
  • Respects your feelings, opinions and your friends
  • Accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do
  • Accepts you changing your mind
  • Respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

When someone loves you, you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself

Useful Contacts
Bexley Women's Aid - 0208 301 1536
Samaritans Bexley - 0208 301 1010
National Domestic Violence Helpline - 0808 2000 247
Galop (LGBT) - 0800 999 5428
Men's Advice Line - 0808 801 0372
Respect - 0808 802 4040 / 0808 801 0327
  • Home
  • Accommodation
    • Christopher Court
    • Private Accommodation >
      • Estate Agents
      • Useful Information
  • Money
    • Budgeting and Advice
    • Hardship Fund
    • Grants/Bursaries >
      • Do's and Don't's
    • Local Discounts
    • SFE (Student Loans) >
      • Setting up a consent to share
    • Postgraduate Support
    • SFE Part-Time
  • Disability
    • Disability Support
    • Disabled Students Allowance (DSA)
    • Dyslexia Resources
    • Useful Contacts
  • Health and Wellbeing
    • Mental Wellbeing >
      • Mindfulness
      • Self-Help Resources
    • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
    • Local Health Services >
      • Relationships
      • Sexual Health
    • Useful Contacts
  • International
    • International Students at Rose Bruford >
      • Before you arrive
      • English Language Support
    • American Theatre Arts
    • DMTA
    • Outgoing Erasmus
  • Organisation
  • Study Support
  • IT Equipment Loans
  • Feedback
  • Gallery
  • Contact